The simple tool for betterfights with your partner
These 4 cards are the simple mediator for difficult conversations.
Just lay the cards down between you and your partner.
Instead of reacting, just nudge a card.
Putting your foot in your mouth
Cycling between trigger, escalation, wounding & distraction
Wasting your breath yelling into the void of disagreement
Healing broken trusts & deepening intimacy
Increasing personal and relationship clarity
Learning how to fight better, smarter and with more love & appreciation
The ritual that was created reminded us of why we love each other, which is a great starting point before "THE FIGHT!"
My partner and I were in a very dark place. Spar Cards created a safe container for both of us to say what we didn't feel comfortable saying. We went into the session in one state, and left in a completely different loving, open, caring one.
My 10 year old daughter woke up this morning and first thing she said was that she wants to "use Spar Cards every Friday night."
The cards and the whole ritual helped us realize that we didn’t need to change the other person’s mind, we needed to listen and respond honestly, even if the response was painful. Thank you so much from the depths of my being.
Leah Siegel created Spar Cards out of pure necessity when she realized she and her domestic partner were completely unable to have any conversation without expressing hidden resentment or escalating into explosive fights. Unable to afford a counselor at the time, and with a deep desire to be able to speak to the person she loved, she created Spar Cards.
What transpired upon using Spar Cards for the first time was the beginning of an entirely new way of being in the world. Leah started teaching couples how to fight, became certified in EFT, and ultimately became a healing coach herself. Her partner became her husband, and suggested that Spar Cards become a simple product so that it could be available to as many people as possible.
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